Podcast 4

Hi, and thanks for joining us on Allen Carr’s Easyway podcast.

I’m Colleen Dwyer.

I’m a senior Allen Carr’s Easyway therapist.

I’m the presenter of our series of online video programs and your podcast host.

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We begin with our addiction Central segment and regular contributor John Dicey the global CEO of Allen Carr’s Easyway, who is also the co-author of Allen Carr
Books and a senior Allen Carrs, therapist who has helped literally millions of addicts to freedom over the last 25 years.

John and I are hearing from listeners who’ve contacted us with questions,including Why do we use the term quitting?

When Allen Carr’s against using this phrase and does the book work the second time around?

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or any questions that you have.

And we’re also joined today by Tigre El, who is an internationally renowned storyteller and author, activist, poet, playwright and public speaker.

It was so interesting to hear Ty talking about his history with smoking and heroin addiction and how he quit alcohol with Allen Carr’s
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So let’s get started here I am talking with John Dicey

Hello, John. Good to see you again.

So we have three questions from three listeners today and I’ll start off with Jasper, who is in London in the UK.

Jasper says, Why do we use the word quit in the book titles now when historically Allen Carr
was always against using it, i.e. you’re not giving up or giving in to anything.

What do you say to that John?

Well, this is great, isn’t it?

Because we have we should have full disclosure here.

We’ve kind of emailed about this this morning and we’ve come up some really interesting stuff because this question, it comes up a lot on our social media.

And I, you know, I work with Allen, you work closely with Allen as well. I always got the impression somewhere along the line that the quit was one of those sort of words we want to avoid if we can really.

And I think that that does go back a long way.

I think possibly, you know, we’re getting old only to the last century, you know.

Oh, my God, Yeah.

Allen was always quite rightly saying, we don’t talk about giving up.

We talk about getting rid of it or Skyping or whatever.

I think the quitting thing might have got mixed up in that

and I think I’ve been
could be one of these urban myths

because I’ve been asked about it
so frequently, so often

on always say the same thing,
which is, yeah,

you know,
Allen and I, we used to talk about, about

language and

terminology, thinking
this might have come up

when the book was first published
in the USA since we corresponded early

on, racking my brain to think

what might have caused it.

And I think it might have been something
in the USA.

where nobody talks about stopping smoking
or giving up smoking.

In the USA they talk about quitting.

That’s what they talk about.

So almost got lost in translation.

And some people are things like think,
you know, quitting.

Quitting is a bad word.

We don’t think about quitting.

Whereas I think

most people have got a negative
view of quitting, have a, you know,

a bad relationship.
You quit, get a wife.

If you’re a bad job, be quit,
go somewhere else or whatever else.

And this is the interesting bit

is the way you were brilliant.

I sort of flagged this up with you
earlier,

thinking that, you know,
the old people taught us, right,

that some point in the past
and it must have been

disparaging about quitting and quit

or definitely talk to them about it.

And this is going back in
sort of the early 2000s.

And it came up and we thought,
well, we’ve got to

we’ve got to start using it more
because it’s unavoidable and partly

because even back then, the search
engine optimisation of websites

require you to use the word,
you know, the phrase quit smoking if you

if you use the word
stop smoking in certain countries.

I’ve got a clue what you’re talking about.

And even the sort of internal
what are they called algorithms on Amazon

or whatever the book with the word quit
and it will work

its way up quicker, higher, more quickly.

So we had these conversations about it.

I don’t, I honestly don’t remember
Allen having a problem with it.

Yeah, obviously there must have been
somebody people were talking about it,

but then we did some research today.

Well, I got my book out. Yep.

My third edition book of Allen Carr’s
Easy work, and that was published in 1999.

Allen said, You know,
we don’t talk about giving up.

We talk about quitting, we talk about
stopping, we talk about escaping.

His favourite one, he said, was escaping.

Yeah, yeah.

So I think

it’s one of these urban myths
about quitting or being wrong speak,

which are going to be I’ve well, I’ve kind
of suffered that for years and years.

So, you know, I’ve always got an answer
for it, which is what we spoke about.

And we’ve used and quit more and more
because the US thing and

it was just a fact of life.

We had to wonder whether there might be a

there might be something
in one of the other books that, that where

Allen talks about it maybe prior to the US,
maybe he got some feedback or something.

But okay, that’s not a bad show.

Anybody out there who is under
the impression that Allen said,

Don’t say you quit, let us know.

Well, you know, we’ll find the reference.

And we would love to know because we can’t
we can’t find one.

You haven’t got a first edition, a clean.

I definitely have.

I can dig out another copy.

I’ll give you
I’ll give you a first edition because I’m.

I’m imagining you’ve got this.

You know, shelves of Allen Carr books,
different editions.

And this is one small gap
where that focus should go.

So actually on that, No,
I do like sometimes

when we’re putting up
the like tick tock videos.

So when people have done
a lot of video of themselves

talking about their experiences
quitting, quitting with us

and the tags that we put on
there is amongst

other tags,
there is the tag giving up smoking.

And we know he didn’t like talking about

and none of us
like talking about giving up.

So that’s a definite

you know, that’s not an Allen Carr
kind of way of thinking about it,

but we still have to use it
because, like you say,

because of the algorithms
and because that’s that’s the vernacular.

That’s what people talk about
when they’re smokers

and we got to meet people
where they’re right.

You know, if people are going to be
searching on Google for giving up smoking,

we can’t ignore that.

You know, we can’t ignore that.
That’s the language.

That comes down to also that search
search engine optimisation, which is

incredibly painful, painful process
to go through with a website

that I don’t really I don’t

claim to understand it at all, but there’s
all kind of keywords you have to use

on a certain number of page
in a certain number of ways or whatever.

And that’s also where, you know, having to
use giving up is really important.

So I mean, sometimes I look at a website
and I love it,

you know, really love what we got there,

but there are pages on that.

It’s all about nicotine,
you know, pages and pages, many,

none of which I would ever want to write,
none of which is relevant,

not not to help anybody.

But is there just for SEO purposes.

But it does bother me because that’s not
that’s really not

what we’re about,
but it’s a sign of the times.

If, you know, if you have big pharma,

other sort of

perhaps unscrupulous people trying to,
you know,

get smokers or addicts
to access their services and they will

they use all that, all the tools
in the are available to them.

Then we’ve we’ve got to
we’ve got to do the same thing.

But yeah, so that was really great
learning experience for me as well.

Never made a proper quick,
which is quite nice

if you are slightly awkward about it
anymore.

And I was Edith, was Edith or somebody.

Else, you know,
that one was from Jasper in London.

Oh, Jasper.

Okay, Yeah, cool.

I think we’ve answered Jasper’s question.

I think. So.

The next one is Edith,
and she’s from Winnipeg, Canada.

So Edith says, I read the Allen Carr book
and listen to the DVD, quit

so easily for a week and for some reason
I was stupid and started smoking again.

And I heard if you do that,
the book doesn’t work so well

the second time around.

So please tell me that is not true.

I still know how
how freeing it was to quit.

I have two adult children with
serious illnesses and that is my stress.

I’m 63 and a retired ICU nurse.

I love the taste of cigarette,
but I know I’m kidding myself.

And also the waste of money is ridiculous.

Thanks for any feedback.

So that’s that’s Edith in Canada.

Well, that’s great.

Get a feel for for Edith there as well.

So it

sounds like she she was free
no problems with it.

And she’s saying
now she loves the taste of it.

But I’m guessing that when she was freed,
she had no problems with it.

She didn’t miss the taste of it.

So that’s quite interesting.

I think one of the things that when you

when you fall back into the trap,

all the old brainwashing,
all the old illusions and myths come back.

I say shame with the most common
one actually is when

somebody stopped
smoking for a year or something

after seminar
and they they come back and they say,

Oh, it didn’t work.

I’m really sorry
to hear about what happened.

I said, Well,

it was fine for you.

You you work fine for me.

Then I went out, drank
too much and smoked and that was that.

Okay.

One of the face of it that sounds

like a reasonable

thing for them to say.

So let’s push them a little harder.
So hang on.

Let me think about it.

So, did you live like a monk for a year?

Not go out drinking, Not, you know.

No, no, no, no.

Was, you know, every Friday night,
every Friday and Saturday night, you know,

so you

a year later, it was a particularly
sort of big night out.

No, not particularly,
no. I’ve been on stag nights.

I’ve been of what
the Cuban-American studied always.

Oh, bachelor.

Actual bachelor news or whatever.

Else. Yeah. Yeah.

Big bowling
tournament’s never had a problem.

I said, Well,

it wasn’t the uncle, it was it.

They sort of petty kind of drugs.

But that’s

once they get forced back into the trap,
all the old myths and illusions come in.

The guy had gone,
you know, a year without a problem.

Now, what happened?

What occurred after that?

Yeah, it was he got overconfident.

You know,
he forgot one of the main instructions

done through out of curiosity
or overconfidence.

Have a cigarette.

As soon as you do that, you’re back in

is one thing,

as I call service facilitators.

We have to deal with a lot.

It’s just not being confrontational
about it, but just really kind of it.

It takes honesty
on the part of the smoker, you know,

You know, if they want to dig their heels
in a kind that no, no,

it was the alcohol
that was appropriate, whatever.

It’s very difficult.

But if if you can just illustrate

with their own

recollections

how they really didn’t have a problem
with alcohol at that point, then,

you know, the
the cause of that can only be

one of several things, you know,
overconfidence, flippancy or whatever.

So you had freedom
and you threw it down the drain.

And great news is
we can get you free again.

We’re not going to make
that same mistake again.

This time.

It’s really, really poor,
because I’ve thought back

to a sort of Edith
who is wants to get to freedom again.

Was it with the book
she was talking about or just.

Yeah,
she read the book and listened to the DVD.

I think just to listen to
it isn’t a sort of a testament.

What it says.

I read the

whole book and listen to the DVD,
so maybe she’s got an old version. Oh.

Yeah, I think so.

Yeah, that might be one with this,

some sort of audio
that came with it or something like that.

Yeah, well,
this was for a first thing I’d say

to get the latest up
to date version of the book.

If you can’t attend a seminar
or get the online, be a program,

The most up to date

version of the method in written form
is an easy way to quit smoking

tobacco rather than stop smoking

and really is

includes

probably 20 years worth of learning
and understanding from the life seminar.

So it really is it
it talks more about things

that were mentioned
in the original book. So

Habit habit is

quite often I think in the first version
is it’s

almost mentioned in passing,
but in the easy way to quit smoking.

We talk much more about it in terms of,
okay, how does, how does a habit work?

What do we think is the habit
the schools in the problem

talk about,

you know,
I guess a is for the 21st century.

We talk about the association
between smoking and anxiety

and self-harm,
which we never be in the book

in terms of

use with cannabis, that kind of thing.

Just a whole there’s
there’s an awful lot of stuff in there

which wasn’t covered in the original,

which is probably more, more,

more necessary than ever

today.

And, and, and expanding on it as well.

We’re not taking the other other bits
and pieces forward.

The association between

smoking and White Guide is have handled
much more in much more detail

about avoid going back to smoking again.

It’s handled in much more detail.

So that’s the first thing.

Or do it if it
if you can afford to get get the right

the absolutely latest version of the book

or as I got to say,

get yourself booked into a life seminar

as a money back guarantee.

You can’t you can’t lose really.

And I think I say our approaches

all before we
we put together the podcast and I so

I sent Edith a memory

or a got a couple of pages of advice on

what to do.

She just wants to, you know,
use the book that she’s, she’s still got

that should, that should,
you know, hold in good stead.

She’d rather if she’d rather do that.

And the thing for you to add to that, you
know, cover everything all your business.

If someone’s quit with a book
like Edith says that she was

happy to know it was so easy for a week.

So she knows and she can remember
how freeing it was to quit,

well then she that can
sometimes make you panic a little bit more

because you think, Oh my God,

if I blown my one and only chance,
you know, and absolutely not.

You know, you just
you’ve had a glimpse of what you’re after.

So it’s just about like you say,
are there reading that book again

with the guidance that you provided
or I can’t help myself of saying it,

but better still, you know,
do the do the seminar.

Sometimes I wonder whether people think
it’s like, you know, like some

I don’t know.

It’s not called a pyramid scheme, but like

they get you in at a certain low level,
you know, cheap way of doing it.

And then you have to pay more
to get to a different status

and a different and it’s almost like,
I don’t know, some people worry

perhaps that that’s what this is,
that, you know, you get them in

with a hook of the book

and then they’ve got to pay
a bigger amount to get to the next level.

And the next level is not that.

It’s just that this is the most
powerful way of getting it.

And same as you, John. I read the book.

I liked it.

You know, I found it very insightful
and perceptive and I related to

what was being said,
but I didn’t quit smoking.

I thank goodness there was a seminar

because I don’t know what I returned to
if not.

So yeah, thank goodness
I went along to the seminar.

I was nervous. I was worried.

I thought, Oh, you know,
what are they going to say to me

that’s different from the book?
I know what’s in the book.

So you know, how how is this going to be
any different in the seminar?

And but of course it is
for all the reasons that you’ve mentioned,

you’re in a group with other
people are in the same boat as you.

The facilitator
can actually answer your questions.

They can pick up on any miscommunications,
misunderstand endings.

There are different ways
to demonstrate the trap the book can’t.

So it’s, you know,
if it’s possible at all.

Edith I would 100% recommend
going to the seminar,

but if not, you’ve got great advice
there from John in your email to,

to reread the book.

And with, with that guidance.

I think you’re right about the sort of

some people’s perception
can be a little bit, a little bit skewed.

I think people are quite cynical about
everything, you know, not just about,

you know, stopping smoking with Allen Carr,
but there’s a lot of cynicism

out there

and I do make it my business
to kind of keep an eye

on what sort of other stop smoking

methods are doing in their marketing.

And virtually all of them hook people
in with an advert

for something
that’s either free or cheap and then up.

So I think there’s
the official phrase for that.

So now if you really want to stop smoking,
it’s going to cost you this much

and add this on or whatever else.

And that’s just not us.

We’ve
never we’ve never, ever been like that.

We just we are quite open about it
that the greater the book

makes it really affordable
for everyone to use the method

and has been for normally successful.

As I say, we don’t want people
to misunderstand what we’re saying.

The book is brilliant.

You know, the best selling,
most effective stop smoking

book of all time worldwide
and it’s something else.

But, you know, don’t beat yourself up
if if it does work for you, that’s a

that’s you know,
because you know, it’s like that, sir.

It’s Allen Carr Lite,
you know, that makes sense.

I know it’s it’s a great point.

I think Edith and other people
listening said well I on

what do you say you want me to say
it won’t work the second time.

I think there is a part you know, in
one of the books where Allen says that

I think all, all he’s trying to do
is have people cherish their freedom.

And that’s all I would say.
It’s everybody.

You know, if you’re listening to this

and you’re already free
from whatever drug it was

and you’re cheating in that out of interest,
you know, never stop

cherishing your free to be Starbucks
brilliant thing you’ve got.

And the only time

people have issues
is is when they take it for granted,

they may start
just being flippant about it.

It’s just which is it seems crazy now.

People forget

what it was they escaped from.

And that’s the only time
really where they get sucked in. So

one hand. Yep. Don’t you worry, Edith.

We’re going to get you sorted out again
next.

There’s no problem on the other.

Once you’re free again, cherish it.

That’s the most
you know, You’ve really got to.

Got to guide it with your life.
And it’s not hard.

It’s not.
You’re not to by the effort into it.

You just need you need to sort of,

you know, I don’t think a day goes by
when I don’t feel so grateful.

I don’t smoke.

I mean,
it sounds a bit boring, doesn’t it?

But it causes my mind,

I suppose, mainly because sort of work
and writing all the time.

But I’d be dead now, I no doubt about it.

A long time ago I

had a, I don’t know, stopped.

You can’t, you can’t smoke.

I, you die
and you have not beat those odds at all.

So every year I might pass this.

I’m just happier,
you know, just it is a real bonus.

So, yeah, be excited about being free
and cherish it.

That’s the really important thing.

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Thank you so much, John, and thanks to
everyone who sent in their questions.

And now here I am talking with Ty, so just a little history.

I came, I came from a family where,

okay, I stole my first

cigarette when I was nine years old

and I smoked,

you know, sporadically up until maybe 11.

And then I started to smoke regularly.

As a matter of fact, at 12 years old,
I smoked around my whole family.

It was okay.

So everybody in my family
smoked on my own.

And I lived with my mother and grandmother
and and all of them.

I mean, my uncles, my aunts, my
grandmother, my mother, everybody smoked.

I mean, and, you know, so
I’m a baby boomer.

I was born back in 1952.

So in 1960,

I mean, you were like an outlier
if you didn’t smoke.

You know what I mean?

It was cool to smoke.

I mean, in the end.

So I smoked cigarettes

all the way until August

the 19th, 1979.

And the reason why I know that date
is because

I went to a hypnotist on a dare

because I had been trying to stop smoking

and I couldn’t you know,
I just wasn’t able to do it on my own.

I didn’t have
I didn’t have I didn’t have the easy way.

If I had known the easy way, I would
I wouldn’t have gone through all that.

But anyway,
I go to this hypnotist on a dare.

I told the guy, I said,
I don’t think it worked.

He said, Well,
but you don’t smoke anymore, do you?

And I said, No, I don’t think I do.

And because when I,

when he when I went to the hypnotist,
it was about a 40 minute session

and when

it was over, it was like, Well,
when are you going to hypnotise?

You know what I mean?

In my brain, I was like, Nothing.

It happened.

So. So

I go out to the car

and I look up at the cigarettes
over the sun visor.

I take the cigarettes out

and throw them in the nearest bin.

Never smoked a cigarette since that day.

Oh yeah.

That’s interesting
because we use hypnotherapy as well

at the Allen Carr seminars
and it is like it’s a really useful tool

to use in conjunction
with the Allen Carr method.

I enjoyed that success with that.

But about the heroin thing,
that’s different.

Yeah. So

okay, so a little bit of back story,
a little bit more back story.

So I was born and raised

in the first all black

public assisted housing project
in the United States of America.

The pilot program for public assisted
housing for black folk in

America is a little place called

Langston Terrace in Washington, D.C.,

about 40 blocks from the capital,
the White House.

And they built these places
back in the early thirties,

a part of President Roosevelt’s New Deal.

Well, I was born in 52,

and I remember the projects
as a child being home.

You know, it’s just where I grew up.

And at 13 years old, 1965,
I remember these things by the years.

In 1965, I noticed that heroin had

just taken over my entire neighbourhood

and it was just most of the people

who I had looked up to
who were role models to me

were seen all over the place

with all of the

all of the things that come
with heroin addiction, like nodding

all of the behaviours.

I mean, you could see people
actually it was so bad

and the heroin was so prevalent,
Colleen, that you could see

people walk up to the lamp
post about to cross the street at the

at the crosswalk, and they start to nod

right there if just in one year

it flooded my neighbourhood
and I look back on it retrospectively.

Now I’ve actually written about this stuff
because it’s clear that it was,

you know, it was designed, it just was,
you know, it was there.

So I got caught up in it.

I was introduced to heroin at 13 years old

and had it for the first year.

You know, I just put it in my nose and

it was semi casual.

But you asked
maybe how does a 13 or 14 year old

even get close to heroin?

How is that allowed? Well,

growing up
in these United States of America,

as a black man

in certain neighbourhoods,

you almost it’s almost you’re you’re

you’re extremely fortunate if you escape

because it’s like everywhere
it’s like what you do it’s,

it’s it’s almost like normal

or it was back then anyway, so it’s okay.

So I got caught up in it.

And so for 15 years

I still have the marks that could roll
my sleeves up and show you.

But I still had the marks
for 15 years of heroin addiction.

I sent me to jail.

I lost everything.

I had ten different times

that.

But I can say now, well, I laugh about it
because on September

25th, again,
I know these dates because they’re

well, everybody

everybody who’s ever been through
any sort of real addiction,

especially if you’ve gone through
any of those rooms like

in a or AA, you know, the
you know, you clean day.

So my clean date is September 25th, 1980.

And I know that for two reasons.

One is that day
I got arrested, got locked up in the way,

and the other is my daughter’s birthday,
who she was

six years old then

is September 25th, the same day.

So I actually got arrested
on her birthday.

But that’s the last day I did any heroin.

And I didn’t I didn’t use any.

Well, I went through I went through

a whole bunch of training program.

I never did the 12 step program,

but I got sent to a federal
correctional institution

here.

It’s it’s called Lexington, Kentucky.

And it’s still it’s still open today.

It’s been open since the fifties,
where anybody convicted

of any kind of crime

for rehabilitation
purposes can go to Lexington, Kentucky.

And so I went there and I started studying

self image, psychology,
rational behaviour therapy.

I was in a therapeutic
a therapeutic community.

And I learned,
you know, so much about myself

that I never had the desire
to do heroin again,

especially after all the stuff

that I did. So.

But I wasn’t through with addiction

because one of the things that stands out
about Allen cause easy way.

I think the thing that hit me

the most was his chapter on

having an addictive personality,

because I thought until I read that

book, that I had an addictive personality.

I thought

I thought three quarters of

my family was the person that I thought

that most of my friends
and family had addictive personalities.

And so his that
that book changed my mind about that,

because while I got away from cigarettes
and I got away from heroin,

I never fully got away from alcohol.

I would still I would still revert back.

I would I would go through these
long periods where

I was in remission.

If that’s a good way to put it, I would

I would use in using willpower,

just not drink.

So I’d go six months,
eight months, a year and a half

and over the last, you know,

all my life, actually, since then,
I think I took my first drink

when I was about 12,
stole that from my family.

You know, that was

I had it.

I had it.

It is Your culture is so different
from ours.

You might well,
you you may be able understand this

because you may do
some of the same things.

But I come from a family where

on Fridays and Saturday
nights, the weekends,

everybody played cards, everybody smoked,

everybody drank.

They big fried chicken,
fried fish made food.

You you, you gambled and you drink.

That’s what we eat.

And so

so I think I took I think
I may have stolen my first sip of alcohol,

which this book resonates with me so much
because I stole so at storage of

I remember this
clearly of friends of the family

used to drink ghibli’s vodka

and it would always be on
ice and it looked like water

at Tully.

I remember I took a sip of that stuff

and thought I was like, Oh my God, What?

What are you drinking it?

And so I think for the first
like six months

or so after that initial drink,
I never drink again.

And then later that same year
I’m thinking I’m still about 12 years old.

One of my cousins
who was visiting for the summer,

he we stole some vodka

and put orange juice
and we had this drink called orange flip.

So he said,
We’re going to make some orange flip.

And while it wasn’t,
it still wasn’t palatable.

You know, you could still
with the orange juice, I tolerated it.

And I think that’s
when I started drinking.

And so I have this the I’m 71,

I got a 60 year drinking history.

I mean, I never
I never was a person who drank

to just to the place
where I was in a stupor

a couple of times.

I drank too much and just felt sick.

But I’d never,
you know, drink myself to sleep.

It woke up the next day, but I would drink

so consistently and so regularly

I could feel myself running,
you know, being run down and get up.

The next thing you know, you drink,
you’re drinking every day of the week.

You get up the next morning,
it’s like, Oh, man, you’re dragging.

And then those times
when I had these periods

of respite from it,

you know, I felt so much better,

you know, because it is it’s poison.

It’s like attractively packaged poison.

That’s what it was.
I mean, it’s what it is.

And now that I’m free from it
because it’s been

two years now, it’s like it’s so clear.

It’s like, wow, man, how did you.

It’s amazing
how we can be so convinced that

this thing is an integral part
of our enjoyment of life and stuff.

And and
and see it from the other perspective.

Now, like,
how could you have been so, so gullible?

Absolutely. Yeah. These societal norms

will have
you feeling like you’re an outcast

if you don’t imbibe

when in truth it’s the other way around.

It’s like,

you know,
you’re you’re actually poisoning yourself.

You’re you’re

contaminating your liver.

You’re I mean, when I look back on it,
it’s easy now, this is the easy way,

but it’s easy now to see, you know,

how just how foolish it was and
and how I get and how

90 it seems like
I know they say 80% or 90%.

It seemed like 99.9% of human beings,

at least in these United States,
are caught up in it.

They’re just well, now
it’s starting to stall.

It’s sort of changing a little bit
because with cigarettes

being,

you know, ostracised the way they had been

and people
not smoking the way they used to,

thing
is changing a little bit with alcohol.

You see a few places
that are alcohol free,

you know, no drinking
and that kind of thing.

And so and that’s good.

But for the most part, well,

excuse me, what I’ve been coming at
while I was coming up,

the opposite was true.

If you didn’t drink, they looked at you

like, Well, can we trust this guy?

You mean then doesn’t drink?

You know what’s wrong with it?

And then and you know, to that point,
I remember a few of my friends

who never smoked or drink, and we would
look at them as if they were nerds.

Yeah. Yeah.

What’s wrong with you?

And, you know, it’s
so the glory and the shame are misplaced.

You saying before about talk about the

the addictive personality theory
and kind of laying the blame

at the door of the, the individual
who’s imbibing, you know, the,

the alcohol or the drug
rather than blaming

the substance itself and society
that rams it down all through

at such a young age as well.

And it’s it’s

very empowering, isn’t it, to recognise
that actually the fault doesn’t lie.

There’s no inherent weakness
in in ourselves.

It’s just the circumstances of the society
that we’re kind of born into.

Yeah.

And it’s also hard
because we are bombarded with I mean,

you can’t, you can’t turn on the telly,

turn it all in here
without being bombarded with all these

commercials, these advertisements
asking you or telling you

that you’re just not cool
if you don’t drink,

you know,
or any of that like 99 different brands of

food or brandy of cognacs, 99 and wine.

Oh, my God,
If you’re not drinking lot, you know,

just reading this book

one time I was actually taking a tally and
I just got tired because it’s too much.

Too much.

I was I was looking at how many times

a commercial

come on, that has or TV show or movie

that has somebody
with a drink of alcohol in their hands

it’s product placement.

It’s called product placement
and it’s normal.

You know, it becomes normal in your head
and therefore you are

you become a victim to it because this

the these you just bombarded

with all these advertisements to say
this is what you should be doing.

You know, you’re you, you,
you could be golden

if you drink this right now

you’re you know, you’re just like copper

or you’re not even silver,
but you could be gold.

I mean, it’s just so it’s so,
so blatant and in-your-face

and so regular that you are
it just you don’t even think about it.

But now but once something like,
you know, the easy way

because, you know, you,

you know,
I started with easy way but I also

got an

easy way to stop drinking,
stop eating sugar.

The easy, easy, easy way to lose weight.

I lost about 15.

Pounds.

From after after the alcohol.

And then you start thinking about the
all the sugar that’s in the alcohol

and then all that sugar, this
and all this other stuff.

And then you just start to do better.

So I look back at the book
and I read everything on Kindle, right?

So I’m looking back at the book
and I’m like,

Did he just hypnotise me through the book?

But the words because the words, the

the references and the way is laid

out, the way the book is laid out

with you, with you,
when you get to the end, you realise,

Oh my God,
he just unravelled the whole thing

and I really don’t need that.

When you’ve quit yourself,
when you’ve kind of seen the light,

so to speak, and, and gone
from being entrenched in this,

this view that you need
drinking or cigarettes or drugs

to function properly and to shine,
you know, in certain situations,

and then to see that you don’t need it,
you really

you want to help other people
who are still in the under

the illusion that they need it,
because you see them struggling

and you see them

kind of doing the, you know, three months
on, three months off or whatever.

And you just your heart goes out to them.

Absolutely. Absolutely.

And and yeah, you know, we,
you know, believing

that I had had an addictive personality

and seeing such an addicted society,
it really makes you want to

you do you want to help?

It’s like, wait a minute, wait a minute.

You don’t have to be going through this
because it’s so much better

on the other side.

It’s just so much better
when you’re clean and sober.

It’s just so it’s just better.

And but you don’t know that

if you believe if you think

that is something,
do something about your chemical makeup,

something about you
personally in your chemical makeup

that makes you have to use these
chemicals, That’s that’s the bullshit.

That’s the
that’s the lie that you knew. You

you live with it.

You like, Oh, man.

So you wrestle.

You know, listen,
there’s been times in this, you know,

I don’t know how many people well,
probably a lot of people go through this,

but I would be driving down the street

and saying
to myself, I’m not going to drink today.

I’m not going to drink today.

I’m not going to drink today
and pull right into the liquor store

and go in and buy two bottles of wine.

After
I’ve said to myself just minutes ago,

seconds ago, I’m not going to do this.

It’s like the automobile steering itself.

And that that is that is

it’s it’s it’s debilitating because

it lowers your self esteem.

It makes you feel bad about yourself.

It makes you feel like
something else is in control of you.

So every chance I every chance.

Well, the thing with this
with the easy way though, is that

I don’t it it is done in such a fashion
that you don’t

really want to

ballyhoo like, Oh, I don’t drink anymore.

You should stop.

Because I think the education that you get

through this methodology

makes you compassionate enough to realise

you can’t throw that in people’s face
because it’s

that monster that hasn’t.

It’s not them, it’s that monster.

And so

I’m just glad it came my way.

I think one of the questions you asked
was, How did I find out about the easy way

I was searching, to be honest,
I was looking for

I over the years,
I went to a couple of hypnotists

about the alcohol and it wasn’t
the same as with the cigarettes.

I don’t know, after six or seven months or

so not drinking, I’d end up in a

in a set of circumstances
where everybody was drinking.

I remember
one time I slipped off the wagon

at a wedding

I had excuse me.

So I end up with a one flute,
one one flute champagne.

Right.

And the next thing you know, I drink
half a bottle.

Now, at night,
my little man, you’re calling.

Listen, I didn’t drink anything
for, like, six, seven months

In that one

situation, I was back on it. So.

So that the hypnosis for that

for that never really took all the way.

And so

over the over the years
and especially in the last like the last

before I actually quit with the easy way,

I went online and

if you go to YouTube,
they have several people

who have programs that say,

you know, quit, quit with hypnosis.

I don’t know how many times I’ve set up
in this place with some headphones on.

Listen to that.

Listen to those sessions.

But they never really worked.

Nothing worked until I discover

it and cause the easy way.

And it was like, Oh my God,

I’ve been wrestling with this thing
and it really is easy.

It was like, I just don’t drink anymore.

I just don’t drink anymore.

And, and add to it

is that, you know, I’ve told my wife

like several times
they’ve been through quit.

I’m done. It’s over. I drink.

This is now.

Okay.

When I read Allen’s book,

I didn’t it wasn’t I didn’t go to her
and say, Honey, I’m done.

I didn’t do that.

I didn’t even feel the need to do that.

I just And she said,
I think maybe six months into

after the first year,
because this is the second year,

she said, You really stop this timer.

Yeah, it was easy to start.

Sometimes people worry
when they quit drinking that they’re going

to suffer with horrible withdrawal
from the drug or cravings.

TIE What was your experience?

You know, I didn’t after okay,

maybe halfway into the book,

I was still getting great.

But I think the book

I don’t know
if this is the right way to say it,

but it saved me so much that I wouldn’t
allow this this thing that just in

this monster, this big lie,

this attractively packaged poison

to manipulate and control my life
the way it did.

I think I just

know a no withdrawals, none of that.

I mean. Well, he talks about that.

You know, it could be out.

No, no, no.

Go back.

Historically,
I know what it feels like to have

to have withdrawal symptoms because

like I said, I did heroin for 15 years.

And in those 15 years, I want to say
at least ten times, there were situations

where I couldn’t get heroin

for whatever reason, I couldn’t get it.

And those two or three days

that I did not get it, it was horrible.

But reading Allen Carr’s
easy way,

I fully understand better
now that even then

that was 99.9% psychological,

because even though my body did crave that

after two or three days of not having it,
no, the symptoms weren’t even there.

It was no symptoms.

And so

to your question

this time.

No, I didn’t.

No symptoms of withdrawal.

No. No craving, no wishing.

Now, I’ll be honest, there are times

when I say to myself, even now I was like,

Can you believe you just had a thought
about drinking some alcohol?

Because those thoughts
go, I guess because I did it so much,

those thoughts just pop up.

It’s like we went

we went to a retirement party

and, you know, was a retirement party.

Remember, I retired.

I didn’t I had no craving,

no, no, no, no.

I had no compulsions to drink.

It’s just
I think the education that you get through

Allen Carr’s easy way is so

subtle one,

because it sneaks up on you
with what you just learned.

It’s like

it’s it and it’s almost like,
you know, I knew that.

I knew that.

But the way it’s articulated

just brings it home.

And so

I have it.

No, I haven’t craved

or had any real compulsions.

Every now and again
I have a thought about,

you know, I’m watching television.

I’m a sports guy.

You know, I watch American football.

I watch the real football, too.

And then I love I love soccer

and which every if you’re watching any
you know,

I watch basketball, baseball,
if you’re watching any of this stuff,

every it every break,
there’s a investissement about alcohol.

Yeah.

And, you know, I say to myself, well,
how could I if, if, if, if the athletes

drink as much as they advertised,
they couldn’t even play.

And there’s so much brainwashing.

But actually the Allen Carr program
is very skilful at removing

all of those impressions and kind of
clearing your mind of this idea.

The drug is, is providing you
with any benefits.

All this clever.

It’s like, it’s like, it’s like when he
when he, when he tells from the start

you have to read it
all the way through and keep an open mind

all the way through.

As an organiser,
I’m like, okay, all right, I’ll do that.

And if you keep your mind open,

it’s like all these revelations, Oh man.

And it’s a series.

It’s like, like, like, like the ocean,

like one wave gets involved
with another wave

that gets involved in the wave
that’s behind it.

And the next thing you know, you’re

you’ve arrived at that and it’s like

it’s just it’s it’s great.

It’s a

I’m trying to think of a metaphor.

It’s like it’s it’s it’s it’s almost like

you’re lulled into your sobriety.

It’s yeah, that’s not the right way,

but it’s like.

I do quite like that.

The waves are quite gentle and yet

the culmination of all of the waves
kind of leads you back to shore.

Yeah, it’s like.

It’s like easy.

It’s the easy way. It’s like.

It’s like.

Like you.

You were caught up in this tumultuous

whatever at sea,

and then you grab hold of this easy way,
and the next thing you know, you just.

And it was easy.

And you got to the and it’s like,
Oh my God, I was dying

over here.

And I got rescued by this little
this little teeny little boat.

Like, I just I don’t know. So.

Yeah, yeah, it’s

so tore.

You didn’t know
anyone who had quit with the program.

You were just Googling
and you just came across the book.

You didn’t.

No one, right?

Yeah. Yeah. No, no, no, no, no.

As a matter of fact,
I’ve recommended it to

my son,

who’s 32,

and he stopped the easy way I sent him.

I just. I just.

I just sent him the book
and I said because he had gotten a DUI.

I don’t know what you called him there.

Yeah. DUI. Yeah,

yeah, yeah, yeah.

He got in one of those young kid.

I mean, and,

you know,
I feel that sort of I felt, you know,

almost like 100% responsible

for his drinking because.

Yeah, you know, that
I got it from all you know, it’s like.

It’s like,
almost like you inherit this thing.

And in your mind, you thinking again

that you have this

flawed gene

and you’ve passed this flawed gene down.

Yeah.

And so as soon as I I’ll as soon it
and when I didn’t immediately

send it to him, but when he called me
and told me he had to do. Yes.

He said to you,
you really want to quit drinking.

I said,
I got an easy way for you to do it.

And he called me back after

after about maybe ten days with the book,

he said, Hey, thanks, man.

I don’t even have a desire to drink.

So I recommended it.

But nobody.

No, I never heard of it.

I found it.

I found the easy way online.

I was tired
and I bet I went through several.

Like I said, these quasi training programs
that train in programs.

But, you know, people have written books
and, you know, you do this.

You did almost like 12 steps.

And then, you know, in then they have this

hypnotic set.

You know, they’re using hypnosis.

And I’m like,
but it never really resonates.

It never it never really took

if necessary.

It never stuck with me.

And it has quite far

reaching consequences
because like, when you when you start

treating your body properly
and treating yourself properly,

then you say, why actually, what about,
you know, not everyone does this,

but sometimes people start thinking,
oh, you know,

well, if I can knock drinking on the head,
maybe I could,

you know, address my eating or whatever
things that kind of bothering them.

Yeah.

Yes, yes, yes.

Yeah, Yeah.

That’s a great point,
because I tended to blame every

every problem that I

had, you know, in my drinking.

And, and because that was easy

to do, you know, it’s like

if I just stopped drinking, I wouldn’t.

If I could just stop drinking, I would
If I could just stop drinking, I wouldn’t.

So all of these, you know, if I would have
coulda should

all on that monster, that thing is

very it’s
people don’t most people don’t understand

just how pervasive it is in this society
anyway.

I mean, it just takes over everything.

People,
people live their lives around alcohol.

They live their lives around

that substance.

And they don’t
they don’t believe that they’re abusing it

because they have been tricked
and trained into believing

that they’re not, when in fact,
every time you throw

some of that poison in your body,
you throwing your chemical makeup off,

you growing,

you’re negatively affecting your kidneys

and everything else,
every every everywhere week.

I mean, it’s it’s poison.

You talked about
when I can’t remember how you said it,

but when he when he explained, you know,

what wine actually is

and about how it’s

fermented.

So unfamiliar.

Yeah. Grapes.

Unfair or unfair on an minute vegetable

waste matter.

And think about it.

It’s like, for real.
That’s really what it is.

Because that’s the only way
it gets to be alcohol, is it has to

it has to turn on itself.

So this once good fruit

has now turned rotten

and you’re drinking the rottenness.

Oh, my God.

So that was
that was like, okay, that’s the see again.

That’s the way why it becomes
it is the easy way because it’s like

they need to smack me in the face

with the fact that I’ve been drinking,
I’ve been drinking

rotten potatoes and rotten like my, my,
my had a cousin, I had an older cousin.

My, my, my, my mother’s brother’s

age who who he used to make.

Yeah, he used to make wine from plums.

People, peaches, apples.

And that’s what you go to his place.

You could smell. Yeah.

When it ferments, when it turns, it’s
like the most rotten, stinking is really.

And but they would wait on him

for the weekend
cause he comes with those jugs.

Is a popular. Man. Yeah, well.

Well. It’s funny. Yeah.

When you put it
in those terms in the very, you know,

basic sense is just gone
all fruit and vegetables.

I remember I was in Lexington,

Kentucky, in the institution
that I was telling you about,

and some guys had made

it put up some prominent fruit
to make wine.

Right.

You know, it’s here in the joint.

That’s what they do in

one of the

guys, the guy who made
this particular batch had got shipped off

and the batch went over like this.

It got off.

It went over and exploded up
in the ceiling of the place

where he had it hidden
and it stank the whole place up.

And they you should have seen that.

They were they were running around trying
to figure out where it’s coming from.

And it was

leaking down through the ceiling
because he had put it up in the ceiling.

I forgot all about that.

But now that you now that we’re talking
about it, it’s like that’s again, proof

that that’s all it is.

And we I used to think of myself
as being quite

the sophisticated lady drinking.

This is going off great.

So yeah, how we can turn that
into this luxurious product.

Expensive delight is a bit kind of crazy.

Yeah, well, you think about, like.

Like Courvoisier.

Courvoisier.

You spend $50 a bottle
for it, and it’s just grapes.

It’s just grapes

who have been ferment it

for this a period of time
in this particular period of time,

makes it worth $50,

would have been a shorter period of time.

It wouldn’t cost you as much.

But because we let it rot
for this amount of time

and we let it rotten in this particular
barrel, see,

now you have to pay a little bit more

your money.

Oh, my God.

We feel for it.

You know what? You know, not just us.

You know, generation after generation is
has kind of been duped in that way. And,

you know, I think you’re you’re right
that this maybe

the tide is turning a bit
because when I quit drinking, it was

I almost didn’t want to tell anyone.

I quit because they would judge me.

Perhaps, you know,

what are you, an alcoholic?

What’s your you know, why don’t you drink?

It’s much more mainstream now.

The idea of, if not quitting completely,
at least giving yourself a break from it.

So yeah,
at least the realisation that is poison.

I’m so pleased
that you’ve come across the easy way.

And I’m so pleased
that you gave us the time today.

Tie two to talk about it
because it’s, you know, it’s important

getting the message out there.
I appreciate you. Thank you.

Thank you for being there.

Thank you for for for being there because

it’s certainly it turned my life around.

It certainly has been a game changer.

The game changer because I was

you know, I was

I was down so low

I could walk up underneath of an
earthworm with a top paddle

and then easy wake.

And I got up from under that thing. So.

So populous.

Thank you.

Thank you so much, Ty. Yes, ma’am.

God bless you.

Thank you so much.

To Ty and to John DC and of course, to you for listening.

Until next time.